Self Compassion

I felt inspired today to write about self compassion. It seems to be a reoccurring theme in my one to one energy sessions with people at the moment. The message for us is to practice and embody this wonderful quality.

it seems that today for me is a day when i would highly benefit from this quality! i started my day feeling very clear that i was going to get on with a commission i have for a wedding ring, i was really looking forward to making it today. Whilst laying in by bath this morning the thought came to me to write a blog post on self compassion. so when i finally got to my computer and started to write it became more and more apparent to me that my mind and focus is very unclear today, i have a very foggy head, (could it be the energy from the full moon and eclipse?) as i tried to write i just felt as if i was unable to access any wisdom! What was self compassion? how could i translate it into words? what is going on today? This is the point at which i could have begun to give myself a hard time, i "should" do the ring, i "should" be able to write a beautiful channelled piece on self compassion! But instead of my "shoulds" i breathed and realised being compassionate towards myself for feeling foggy and tired made much more sense! Of course self compassion was on my mind today because i needed this quality for my self now!

And now i have accessed a flow of words and my energy has began to feel much softer. there is no point in beating myself up because i feel tired, i would never be like that towards some one else!

So the art of self compassion is learning to be kind to yourself, really kind, kind and supportive, loving and nurturing, yes you really are allowed to be this way towards yourself, in fact at this point in time it is of the utmost importance! ;) So many of us are clearing so much, we are feeling so much, we are becoming more and more sensitive. Its time to really be our own best friend, to love ourselves the way we would love a child a friend or a partner.

A good indicator of when to bring in self compassion

The use of the word "should"! usually (not always) means we are most likely going against our truth.

When ever we hear ourselves saying mean unkind unloving things to ourselves.

When we have become angry and express ourselves in a way we think we "shouldn't"! its really ok to express ourselves, so often we then give ourselves a hard time for it.

When we feel tired and unable to do what we think we "should" (that word keeps popping up!)

When we feel confused, unloved, unheard, useless, detached................basically anytime we feel we need support.

We can give this support to ourselves, we can say to ourselves, "i hear you, i see you are feeling tired and unable to do that thing that was sooooo important!" and we can breathe and relax back into this gentle voice, this loving voice that is ours.  We can wrap ourselves in the gentle loving energy that we would wish to receive from another. I'm sure you are good at giving this energy to others, its time to receive it for yourself.

When i do this for myself, i breathe into my body, i feel my body fill with life force, loving life force energy, our breath is our constant companion, our connection to spirit.  On my out breath i relax deeper into my body, and let my body hold me. Its great to come into the present moment and fully be with what is. You can give your self your hands, in a hug, or placing your hands over a part of your body that you maybe feeling discomfort or anxiety. Breathe into your hands and receive your touch.

Find what works for you, play with self compassion, how can you best support yourself through loving kindness. Become your own best friend. Because your worth it! ;)

So much love to you, and i wish you a beautiful magical day xxx