Honouring myself as a mother

Day 4 of my 30 day video challenge which has also turned into blogging too, i love the way one thing leads to another.

Today's topic came about this morning by looking at celebrating achievements in my life. i was able  to feel feelings of celebration for my jewellery creations, so that was great and gave me a sense of what it felt like to experience celebration for myself. i then moved on to my mothering but was unable to find that same sense of celebration with in me. This was a little bit of a surprise as i thought i thought i was doing a good job, which is actually true, but there was an underlying feeling in me that I'm not a very good mother. and i just couldn't receive this feeling of celebration. Then i heard a question

"How much better would it be for my daughter if i was to believe i was a good mum?"

Earlier in my morning pages i had been writing about her and what she is going through within herself and i had asked "what is it about this situation that I'm not getting?"

and so my answer to that question came to me through a new question.

i could see straight away that by me not feeling confident and not believing in myself as a Mother i was creating very shaky unstable ground and space for her to grow in. And i realised in that moment that i owed it to her and to myself to step fully into honouring and celebrating myself as a Mother. Its never to late to create a new foundation and base to live from.

We learn by example and naturally pick up and respond to that which we are around, especially as children. i had learnt this from my Mother and she from hers and i can feel that it goes way back! Dis empowerment and lack of confidence. 

But it doesn't have to stay that way. i worked on clearing the patterns within me, using Ho'oponopono

I'm sorry  (i recognise something in me is out of alignment)

please forgive me  (releasing the belief)

i love you  (bringing in love to replace the thought)

thank you  (gratitude works in so many magical ways)

i also asked that any patterns within me attached to this be uncreated, and in this moment i ask that they be uncreated in my ancestors and in my future family line including my daughter. Thank you!

once i had done this i asked again if i could celebrate myself as a Mother and i could, not only that i felt a real shift in my being, i felt empowered! how exciting!

So if we wish to create a stable loving environment for our children, we must first create within our selves a loving stable environment. if we are living a life where we honour, love and respect ourselves then that is what our children will learn. Children are one of the best tools for self realising! They mirror everything, they are such a gift to us. (a white feather just floated past my window! a big universal YES to that!) 

So if you see your child going through stresses or problems in their lives, i would say to ask yourself first, "where is this in me?"........................... 

Wishing you a magical day